Online Flirting Tips

 So why should we flirt online?

As everyone and I do mean everyone already has experienced, approaching a girl can be difficult and fear of rejection strong. This leads to anxiety and therefore to unintentionally sending awkward signals.
So online flirting really does represent a good starting point for every unexperienced flirting beginner.

Before getting into the step by step guide I would like to quickly mention the main advantages of online flirting:

  • Best case: your wildest dreams becoming reality
  • Worst case: no answer
  • Mass approaching
  • A lot information available beforehand
  • Steep learning curve
  • Focus on exactly your type of girls

The approach:

When initiating a conversation
nothing’s worse than an message with no relation to her . Generic phrases like “you look hot, wanna chat?” will get you nowhere. Take the time to analyze the profile and try to figure out some points which you can mention. For example you notice a recent photo which shows her in Bar xyz. Maybe you can start at that point a conversation asking her about that. Moreover if you find shared interests which are worth mentioning jus go ahead.  It puts you out of the crowd and sets up a topic for continued discussion.

It cant be stressed out enough which big role the first sentences play. As a general rule beeing funny in a gently way is the most efficient way. For instance: there are a lot of pictures showing her playing some volleyball. So an decent approach could go like: “I see you’re pretty good on volleyball. The last time I played this game  I got hit by the ball like three times. Mind helping me improve?” Relate the joke to her  profile and you’ll be getting a fun, flirty response in no time.

There is a general opinion that compliments itself are cheap and a no-go. Of course “You’re so pretty” does not work.  But try  complimenting the girl on an unusual combination of characteristics: “I ve never saw a girl playing chess while being so hot”. The key for an succesful approaching is to show that you invested some time and really tried instead of just leaving a random message like “hey how are you?”. This worked like 10 years ago but not today anymore.

She replies and the conversation begins:

Keep the general rule in mind: You want to attract her and provide your potential date with something to ask you about.

Try to find good questions but dont overexaggerate it. Finding a balance between beeing generic and personal is important.

Crucial point: ask for date, for example: When you know what she likes to do, you can suggest an activity that fits in with her interests.




Getting Started

Get real and be honest with yourself.

At first talk to yourself and get some honest answers. Every guy knows the type of girls he is probably able to seduce.However, some choose to ignore this fact and approach girls who are not in this “area”. That brings rather frustration.  Also you have to understand that it will take time to get better at flirting.

Thus, it’s much easier at the beginning to get started with women who are more likely to get attracted by you. Saving the ones who are bit beyond your league might be a good idea until your skill improved.




The Ultimate Summer Flirting Technique: Social Proof

Getting social proof is a great flirting technique. Remember, your social value will rise to match the social value of the girls you’re with. So you want beautiful women to see you with other beautiful women.

For most guys, meeting girls at clubs is difficult for them. So they prefer to meet girls at bookstores, malls, coffee shops, and other daytime “low pressure” places.

But meeting girls at clubs can actually be far EASIER than at daytime places because of the flirting technique of social proof increasing social value.

I know that can sound counterintuitive. After all, at a club you have to deal with loud music that can be difficult to talk over, distracting lights, competition from other guys, and girls with their “shields” up. Worse still, if you go alone you don’t know anyone else while it can look like everyone else is having fun.

Even if you go with your friends they’re typically no help either because all they do is stand immobilized by hesitation with a beer at their chest – and know next to nothing about pickup techniques.

Has the following ever happened to you?

You walk into the club, checking out how “good” it is. You walk around the entire club to check it out. You don’t know anyone, and you don’t have anything to do, so you walk around again checking out all the girls.

You get bored. Perhaps you get a drink. You walk over to the dance floor and stare at it. Of course, fifty other guys are also staring at the dance floor. Like a master bed in the center of a master bedroom, the dance floor hypnotically commands attention.

You nurse your beer and eventually decide to walk around the club again. Nothing happens so you decide that the club “sucks” and then you eventually leave for another better place.

Of course, you do the very same thing at the very next place you visit.

I used to do this ALL the time. It sucked because it never got me anywhere.

The problem is, this kind of behavior is the exact OPPOSITE of what you want to do, because by wandering around you convey certain negative information to girls that shoots down your chances before you even make an approach.

When you circle around a club, women NOTICE that you’re alone. They make a mental note that you’re alone – and therefore lack any social value. Women give you social value by how hot the women and men you’re with are. But most guys walk around the entire club multiple times alone, collecting NEGATIVE social value the entire time – an “anti” pickup technique.

Think about it. When you FIRST walk into the club, the girls know NOTHING about you.

This is your chance to shape their blank impression of you. But what do most guys do?

They instantly go about setting a NEGATIVE impression of themselves – by walking around the room and staring at the dance floor. This is what ALL the guys who have no social value do. So then, if and when you do approach a hot girl, she lacks interest in you because she’s already categorized you – thanks to YOUR actions.

Thus, most guys give up on clubs because they’re “too hard”. But it’s not that clubs are “too hard”. It’s that you’re doing them all wrong.

Making clubs work for you is easy with the right pickup technique. In fact, meeting girls at clubs is EASIER than at other places. And you can make them work just as well as if you go with friends or if you go alone. You just have to know what to do. Here are some pickup techniques I use with great success.

When you first walk into the club, smile. A lot of women watch the door to size up the guys coming in. Remember, as you walk in your social status is a BLANK SLATE and you want to be immediately shaping a good first impression.

As soon as you’re in, OPEN the first available set of girls or set of girls and guys for social proof. Don’t look for a lone girl, you won’t find her. You’ll want to open a set of two of girls or a guy and a girl which are much easier to find.

There. It immediately looks like you have friends. It doesn’t matter if the set goes particularly well – other women will notice that you’re with other girls. Other girls will immediately peg you with social value – because they have no idea that you’ve only just met these girls.


So as long as they see you talking with other girls, they will mentally note this and be more open to talking with you themselves. This is not a conscious process, just something that girls do automatically without thinking about it.

So you open your first group of girls RIGHT AWAY. The conversation doesn’t have to go well, all you’re doing is collecting social proof. If the first group begins to stall, just turn to the set of girls next to you and open them. They’ll be much more likely to talk with you because they’ve already seen you talking to other girls. You can even join the groups together by saying, “Hey ladies, my friends here were just talking about such-and-such… what’s your opinion on that?”

That’s the pickup techniques, to ALWAYS be talking to a group of girls. Jump from group to group. By the time you’ve worked yourself through 45 minutes of talking to girls, ALL the girls in the immediate vicinity will know that you have social value. If you build up enough social value this way, you can just walk up to the hottest girl in the club and say, “Give me your number,” and she will give it to you.